You're going to want to look back on photos of your friends with their arms draped around each other, laughing, being weird, taking selfies, and so on. You know what won't make the cut? The snapshot of you and the dude you weren't that into stiffly smiling in someone's backyard. Candids with the people you care about most will truly stand the test of time. Prom has been reinforcing gender norms and classism for decades, and as recently as , prom was a segregated event.
So when you think about it, showing up solo and doing whatever you want is not only badass, but a protest of the dance's origins. Pretty soon, your friends are going to part ways and head off in different directions. This is the night you get to celebrate all you've done the last four years and—cheesily enough—live in the moment.
Enjoy it. Get excited. Don't make this the day of pretending like you're an old person and going to a formal dinner with someone you're not that into—trust us, you have the rest of your life to do that.
You'll avoid pre-dance stress. Keeping your dance card open is half the fun. When you go to prom with someone, you don't necessarily have to be attached at the hip all night, but you definitely feel an obligation to check up on your date and have them in your vicinity throughout the night. Sure, if that person is your crush or SO, you want to be by them all night, but it also means you may miss out on an awesome dance sesh with your girls or an impromptu selfie sesh with your girls in the bathroom.
But when you go to prom with someone just for the sake of having a date, they can end up feeling more like a ball and chain than a fun person to have beside you all night.
You might want to just go off with your friends to have some fun, but then you start to worry about whether your date will feel like you blew them off. Even if your date genuinely wouldn't care either way kind of like you , you still feel that pesky obligation to check up on them just in case. Luckily, my date was a lifelong friend, so having him by my side all night was painless and enjoyable.
But definitely don't settle for any date just for the sake of having one. Think about the dynamic going with the person you're considering bringing will create and if it's worth having to potentially hang out with them all night before taking the be-my-date plunge.
Going to prom with someone who isn't your boyfriend or bestie is a gamble. You might have one idea of how the night is going to go, and things can be really awkward and even hurtful if you're not on the same page. I never experienced this when I went with a date like I said, I knew my date my whole life and he was super cool , but one of my best friends, Ashley, wasn't so lucky.
See, Ashley decided to go to prom with a friend of one of our other friends who went to another school. We'll call him Jake. So when the big night came, Ashley was really excited to go with Jake and see how the night went. Everything was going so well in the beginning. He showed up on time, dressed to the nines. They talked and joked around in the limo and while we ate dinner, but things started to get weird when we all hit the dance floor.
Jake danced with Ashley for a bit, but after a while, he moved away from our group. The next thing we all knew, he was off talking to another girl a girl we all happened to know he had history with and he stuck by her for much of the night. Then, to add insult to injury, he left the dance with another girl at the end of the night.
Like, dude! Ashley kept it cool and she ended up having a great night anyway there was no way we were going to let stupid Jake ruin her night. But still, Jake blowing her off was a distraction, and it made her angry, sad, and annoyed — all feelings no one wants to feel on their prom night. I'll have to ask Ashley whether she regrets going to prom with Jake or not, but her experience should definitely make you think about whether the person you're thinking about going to prom with is on the same page as you and how that might make you feel once the big night comes, especially if things don't turn out the way you hoped.
At Junior Prom, when I was dateless, a slow jam coming on was simply an indicator for me to exit stage left and go touch up in the bathroom or sit down and rest my feet. I'm sure that for girls with actual significant others, a slow dance is no biggie.
But if you go to prom with a friend or crush, slow dancing can be complicated. Just because you're friends with someone, doesn't mean you're comfortable slow dancing with them, so when it's time for the DJ to play a slow song, you kind of look at each other and wonder, "Are we going to do this? Most people make prom into a big deal, thinking of it as a life-changing experience. However, prom is just one night out of your life. Let go of your expectations.
This is important whether or not you have a date. If you go to prom with strict ideas about how the evening should go you will probably be disappointed. Instead, go with the flow and try to have fun.
For example: If you and your friends are too late to make your dinner reservations, go through a burger drive-through instead. You will create hilarious memories and have time to relax. If a friend changes plans, see what your other friends are doing and tag along. Get to know some! Approach them like you would anyone else you wanted to be friends with. Boys are people, just like you, there's nothing to be scared of. Try to find some common interests so you have something to talk about.
It will be easier than you think. Yes No. Not Helpful 3 Helpful Go with friends. You don't have to go to prom with a date. It is just as fun when you go with a group of your friends. If all your friends have dates, then you should ask a family friend to go with you as your date.
Don't let the fact that nobody asked you get in the way of having a good time. Not Helpful 2 Helpful Hang out with your friends. Meet another person with no date and hang out. Use your phone to go on fun websites. Not Helpful 4 Helpful 8. People dance at the prom. It doesn't necessarily mean he likes her. Wait until that song is over, and then ask him to dance with you to the next one. Not Helpful 3 Helpful 7. Mingle while you're there!
Talk to new people or some familiar classmates. Be confident in yourself; you're there to have fun and make memories, so don't let it stop you. Not Helpful 3 Helpful 8. A good way to go about this is to approach them when they are with their date and address the date instead of the person you want to dance with: "Would you mind if I asked your date to dance?
Do you think your date would mind? Not Helpful 1 Helpful 6. Try to talk a friend or two into going. Tell them it's gonna be a lot of fun, and they'll be really glad they have these memories when they're older. If you can't get any friends to go, there will still be plenty of people you know there. Just mingle with acquaintances. Ask some people to dance, even if you don't like them romantically.
Maybe you'll make a new friend while you're there! Not Helpful 1 Helpful Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. If someone teases you about not having a date, ignore them. Helpful 1 Not Helpful 0. Be wary of drinking alcohol before your prom starts.
For obvious reasons this may ruin your evening if you are bad at consuming alcohol. Avoid indulging in drugs or alcohol.
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