Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph. Other researchers have very similar findings. Okay, so jerks are, well… jerks. So then why do girls fall for them? Jen Kim, a former Psychology Today intern and a graduate of Northwestern University, has trouble believing that she really likes jerks. All of these are arguably good reasons for why girls like jerks, but do all girls really like jerks?
Heidi Muller, who writes for Ask Men, reinforces the idea that girls with low self-esteem like jerks. She adds that these jerks fake confidence to cover up their own lack of self-esteem. What a jerk.
Be that as it may, let's explore why some girls actually prefer the latter. A recent study suggests [JB1] [JB2] that women show increased desirability for jerks when they're looking for casual sex with no strings attached.
In other words, when it comes to a long-term commitment, nice guys finish first. If you're a younger guy and you're not sure why some women aren't interested in you, this might be the reason. These women may not be looking for a serious relationship right now. Chiseled good looks are subconsciously associated with jerks, meaning women tend to favor these characteristics over submissive traits in times of heightened sexual drive.
It might seem odd, but that's because it is. Our bodies are so complex when it comes to hormones and our genetic make-up that we have a difficult time processing the way we feel about certain things and people. This doesn't mean that every woman on the planet is a sucker for chiseled cheeks and a sharp jawline, but there might be times when they prefer the jerk over the nice guy.
Source: pexels. Chasing and claiming a "bad boy" delivers a confidence boost that many women desire. Guys who act like jerks typically don't fall head-over-heels for women. Instead, these guys prefer the old "hard-to-get" strategy because it makes them appear less vulnerable. Even though these men won't give women the time and attention they often want, some women still crave acceptance from a jerk. Now, if you're a guy reading this and you're wondering why this makes no sense, we can't say we blame you.
However, it's true that some women enjoy the challenge of pursuing a guy who doesn't seem to be interested in them because it creates a sense of tension that often leads to intense feelings of desire.
However, it's important to note that these dynamics don't create the foundation for a healthy relationship. If you're a guy reading this article, you might feel a bit frustrated, especially if you're not a jerk in which case, we applaud you.
That is completely understandable, and there's also hope. As mentioned previously, evidence shows that, later on in life, women value kindness in potential partners when they're ready to create a fulfilling, long-term relationship. Some girls like jerks because they believe they'll be the ones to change the jerk's behavior for the better. Narcissists often make a good first impression because they act outgoing, for example, they take the lead in conversation in an effort to impress people and get attention.
Over time, they come off as self-centered, entitled, and too competitive, the researchers say. So forget the idea that acting like an A-hole will win over women, and instead just aim to be confident and outgoing, says study author Emanuel Jauk, Ph.
Evolutionary biologists would call "bad boys" hypermasculine, explains Michael R. Cunningham, Ph. They may also be rebellious or emotionally unavailable, says Madeleine A. In the most extreme and negative interpretation, bad guys display qualities of the so-called psychological dark triad, according to relationship researcher and coach Marisa T. Cohen, Ph. Basically, they might be narcissistic with a sense of entitlement and a grandiose view of themselves , Machiavellian callous and prone to exploiting others , and psychopathic displaying antisocial and impulsive behavior.
And yet, sometimes we just can't quit them. Science, in particular evolutionary biology, partially explains why bad boys can be so compelling. If a girl's inner life is unexpressed, she may be drawn to a bad boy as a way of vicariously expressing her own inner rebel. Despite the fact that this quality makes him an unsuitable partner for the long-term, it can make him so attractive, it's seemingly worth the potential pain associated.
Norhanie Pangulima, a content ambassador at Hernorm , can relate. Similarly, April J. Lisbon, Ed.
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